When I think of neuroplasticity, I will always think of it as a constant self-coding into something that my subconscious will always absorb like a sponge that can’t resist but immediately incorporates any water without second-guessing it. Same with our beautiful mind; I realized that every motion that I am either conscious of or not will lead me to become another character who has the power to do something about it. Before I decided to type this article, my mind went to an immediate blank and was just about blasting, talking about whatever it was inside my mind. About the fact that everything in life is just full of abstractions when it comes to building something that everyone perhaps would crave:
A future that is aligned with what we want.
The future requires you to stay within that inner coherence between how you choose to live and how you act externally in your own existence. I'm almost blasting, talking about the previous conversation I just had with Mom and the accumulation of what I put my mind into through this one piece, right up until I realized what my purpose was in writing in the first place. Is it coming from ranting, providing, or creating a solution? The first aim that you put inside your mind before doing that thing repetitively is an important rule when it comes to letting your mind know who you are before the world does it for you. The type of unexpected encounter that you can either recognize or not, and when it comes to staying in alignment, the inner coherence itself needs to start perceiving every gesture as “This is Who I am Now.”
When it comes to growth, in a way, inner alignment means you show up all in a way of being human nature itself in every aspect you’ve mastered through how you make your own decisions, critical thinking, action, and speaking. I would say the concept of 3 in 1 is to make your body recognize your future through connecting it to the present life that you experience right now.
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To know yourself so really damn well.
For starters, to know yourself is not through putting together that old puzzle from old dusty scripts that no longer serve you. It means that from now on, you start to invest in nourishing this character that you’ve built for yourself. The most likely conversation that I always had will go along with this specific area that immediately takes power over you, such as people-pleasing, insecurity, and scarcity. It was basically like a full-blown underestimate-yourself identity that came from survival. It came from past experiences, from how you grew up, that subconsciously passed through you without you ever asking for it. It was an immediate danger and pain that the mind would always try to capture the experience from. You became the only thing that you knew how to exist through that repetition of those specific lenses. Your sense of “self” disappeared because of the constant “adapt” and “improve” that came from survival. The resource of what makes you feel alive constantly came from the specific state itself. Well, can you imagine for most of your entire life when your brain has been specifically trained for those areas until every chapter, situation, and experience has become a constant reaction from that script that your mind has been learning for decades, rather than existing first and responding to the real situation without needing any mind validation to make you feel some type of way.
To make your mind work in your favor rather than against you is to understand that your brain is continuously predicting what life is about to become based on the repetitions it has practiced the most. Every deliberate repetition is not merely creating a habit. It is updating the internal model your nervous system uses to anticipate reality itself. The more faithfully you inhabit a new character, the more your brain begins treating that character as the safest prediction available. Eventually, certainty is no longer something you chase. It becomes the default language through which your body interprets the world. What once required conscious effort quietly becomes your new definition of normal.
“Normal” means that in every experience, moment, or situation, the mind will automatically create the most efficient reality that your character inside of your body can feel and perceive immediately. Yesterday was the last time I spent time with Dad because his body was back on this earth. A couple of things intrigued me: the fact that people loved to get that reassurance through hugging and words of encouragement, just typical human gestures, whereas for me, it was like the most uncomfortable situation to be in because, in my mind, the type of assurance I need is just to be by myself and feel the reality of what just unfolded inside of my life. Although the only thing that made me feel like this is who I am was the part where there was a lot of nature around me and there were birds and butterflies, the only attention I immediately released was that moment that I could capture inside of my head. It was like the character inside me—that small casual talk with people that I didn’t have a connection with was an immediate something that I needed to respond to rather than simply being there for the occasion itself, and I didn’t need to do anything about it other than just be there because I was there from the beginning of this chapter for Dad and my family, and other than that, I was captured as just a facilitator for my dad and mom.
The type of making conversation to constantly talk about the same thing all over again and not bring anything good but waste my time truly appeared inside of my head; well, it wasn’t specifically said like that; it was more of just I didn’t know how to respond rather than ignoring the rest, except my intention for Dad, his funeral, and family. The last 4 days have been quite intriguing in a way that the farewell of Dad was so structured, as if each moment of Dad was captured as constant socializing, crying, taking photos, Christian consolation services, rinse and repeat. My mind was definitely kind of shocked in a way by the self-sense of how I can feel right only through expressing myself in writing.
It's because my nervous system hasn’t prepared for this many roles that I’ve never signed up for. The role as a daughter who grieves about her dad, to be constantly reminded of Dad’s story about his vulnerable experience that Dad’s colleagues, family, and friends will ask about and give that feedback that I needed to simply listen to, and the part of needing to welcome all people to Dad’s funeral for these couple days non-stop that led me to anticipate so much that the daughter role in me took my body away for a while just for the sake of functioning. It was like my nervous system was stretched much longer than it used to be, in a way that I needed to constantly be on and anticipate something that doesn’t bring anything as a sense of self of who I am.
Well, this is how much time I spent knowing myself so damn much that I immediately could bring back my present-self sense when I flew myself back to my home. The type of roles that I’ve repetitively intentionally improved myself in so that anything happens, I can bounce back to an alignment as who I truly am. That leads me to a second point.
If you're currently learning how to hear your own mind beneath the noise, the 1:1 Restoration Space was created for exactly that.
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What you are doing right now is a decision that you make for your future.
The truth is, when you want to experience something in your life that you truly want, you will have that. What’s stopping you is the comfort of what you’ve been doing repetitively until something that you want is captured as something that you can do later, simply because the mind has been consumed too much through that repetition that no longer serves you. And the only way to make your desire become so visible is to do it right now. Not in a way that you can build something overnight, but through repetition of how much you want to have that thing that you put inside of your heart, and you immediately release that to your own life’s existence now. It’s rebuilding that neuroplasticity evidence of “This is what normal feels like” until your mind takes those notes and just works in your favor so easily that you no longer need to think, rather than simply exist and move.
However, the key is the intention beneath the action itself. When you said you wanted to experience it, you started to act on it right now. You immediately go into that character everywhere and every time until anything else becomes just an echo of what you used to entertain. For me, the immediate action I used to take was to open my phone, which put my mind in immediate character itself, whereas right now, what I will do is to take myself on a morning walk and continue writing. These two combinations put my character in coherence with the expression of how I want to exist inside of my life in a day. Or when I took time to read my favorite book before I slept, that became my permanent identity, who loves to read something that brings my mind to get that stimulation of how I perceive my own life.
When you think about it, what you are doing is helping you to become who you want to be, but inside of your heart you still feel somehow you are not feeling satisfied with what you have now, simply because the role that is no longer deserved in your life was still there and has power over you. And to get rid of it is to put your body in the most uncomfortable position where your mind will still be begging you to go back into your old life that makes you not need to think twice or listen more. To be in an uncomfortable place means to use your unfamiliar emotions, state, and different way of responding; you haven’t put your body inside that new script that you want to make a default in your system. It’s about the longer time invested. You are into that specific role of who you want to be until the mind gets used to it and is able to increase the muscle repetition itself until you no longer need to “work hard” but are just putting yourself out there and moving like it.
For example, a professional athlete and artist who is constantly doing the same thing all over again without having to react to unexpected outcomes or constant uncertain feedback from this world. The strong identity that they’ve repeatedly held for most of their entire life until life brings something that their mind captures as simply feedback from the universe itself. Remember, it’s not something that made them praise themselves because of it but a normal, obvious type of feedback that they have daily during their life experience.
Every decision quietly teaches your nervous system what to call "normal." If you're ready to become more intentional about the life you're rehearsing, you're welcome inside the 1:1 Restoration Space.
Or begin at your own pace through the Restoration Library, where each guide was created to support that same direction.
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Life happens only through repetition of how you fill your life’s existence
Repetition appears the minute you open your eyes in the morning and start your life in the role that you’ve been doing for most of your entire life. So, to create a new one is by choosing that unfamiliar until it becomes so normal that reality puts that reality back into your eyes. It only shows the most repeated thoughts and emotions that you breathe inside your body until they become your primary attention itself. And from that, the movement became all aligned with that specific internal attention focus that you either choose or do not choose for yourselves. For example, I’ve been writing for a while here now, but during this writing session, the mind has been trying to make me do something else that wasn’t working in my favor or just put me into some old memories of what I’ve been putting my mind into.
It was like I’d been doing that non-stop socializing, focusing on Dad, his funerals, high-intensity emotions, grieving, and being there for my family. All of these, repetitively, that I put my mind into until writing became one of the last agendas that I wanted to do. And if I wasn’t aware, by letting my mind just continuously focus on that, I guaranteed that when I was flying back home, what I wanted to do would immediately change to another movement itself… Perhaps, to just be focusing on having more socialization and constant emotional hits that made my system feel some type of way, or to just validate myself to just do something else for the sake of “I am still grieving, and I am not ready yet.” Whereas, in reality, life will always be moving forward, and the moment itself has ended. Therefore, there is nothing left I can do but to go back immediately to my own life.
The life that I promised myself long enough to appear and smell like my goals this year—I will have it in that perfect time when I am ready. And the term “ready” is not built through consistently finding another excuse to do it any other time, but right now, whenever and wherever you are, you choose to show up for yourselves and do what your future self will do right at this moment in time until reality starts to bring that momentum and you don’t feel overwhelmed or shocked but perceive it as something obvious for you to have.
Every chapter you read here exists because I practiced living it before writing it. If you ever feel called to go deeper, I've created two quiet places for that journey. One is the 1:1 Restoration Space, where we work together personally.
The other is the Restoration Library, where you can begin in your own time, at your own rhythm.
Every chapter that you’ve currently experienced will always have an ending. That ending, your awareness can perceive it as something that you lose or win through that level of how much time you choose yourself again and again. To be able to perceive it as a new opportunity and expansion that your system has been ready for all along, or as something that you immediately go into victim mode for. Everything is about the belief that you choose as that normal baseline consistently. To let your emotions lead the decision of what you want, or a one character internally that you always breathe in that sounds like who I truly am. So, all thoughts and decisions are portals for your next destination. Pick intentionally.
Your Subconscious Besties,
Liona
